How can I help my child with back to school anxiety?

Start the school sleep routine a week early, walk past the school so it feels familiar, and name the feeling calmly instead of fixing it. Short, honest reassurance works better than long pep talks.

What should I say the night before school starts?

Keep it simple. Tell them it is normal to feel wobbly, remind them of one thing they are looking forward to, and let them know exactly who is picking them up and when.

When should I worry about school anxiety?

If your child refuses school for more than a couple of weeks, stops eating or sleeping, or the worry spills into weekends and holidays, speak to the school or your GP for extra support.

How do parents cope with their own back to school nerves?

Your child reads your face before your words. Prepare the practical things the night before, keep goodbyes short and warm, and give yourself something kind to do after drop off.

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Back to School Anxiety, Gentle Ways to Help Your Child and Yourself

Published 14th August 2026Updated on 2026-08-14

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It is the worry a child feels in the weeks before term starts, often about friendships, teachers or getting things wrong. It usually shows up as tummy aches, early waking or clinginess rather than the words 'I am anxious'.